“My way or the highway” is a common mentality among us humans. All about me and what I want, think, and feel. Selfishness. We like to look out for number one. Me, Myself, and I. We can easily put our own interests ahead of others. We can think “My time and energy is precious to me. Why would I waste it on someone else?” But it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that that isn’t love.
Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:5 that love does not insist on its own way. It does not seek its own. Love isn’t selfish. Love is not about serving self. Do we have interests and needs for ourselves? Absolutely. But when we focus on ourselves so much so that we neglect the needs and interests of others then we fail to love.
Do we really listen to other’s ideas and feelings? Are we showing them that we care? That we’re interested? That they matter to us? Love listens. Love cares. Love is interested. When there are decisions to be made in the home, at school, at work, in the church, etc are we insisting on our own way without any regard for others? Will we not be happy unless we get our way way? Do I have to be the focus of attention? Love won’t do that.
Love does not insist on its own way. Don’t do that. Be willing to reason. Give and take. Sacrifice your tie and energy for the sake of others. Show people you care. Don’t be selfish. Be giving. Serving. Kind. Attentive.
If we ever struggle with this, go to the cross. Look at what Jesus did for us. Look at what God sacrificed. God sought our needs. He has shown He loves and cares for us. We are to make Him number one in our lives. And then make others number two. We should fall in at a distant number three. Let’s do it.