We men often joke about never being able to understand women. And it’s probably true to an extent because we’re just not smart enough to understand women. But when it comes to marriage, God tells us that husbands better do their best to be understanding and loving.
Read 1 Peter 3:7… “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
Seeing as how that comes straight out of God’s Word, we better take it seriously and work hard at it. It’s a fact that men and woman differ in a lot of ways. Husbands don’t always understand the way their wives think. Their emotions. Their ideas. Their cares and concerns. But Peter tells husbands to honor their wives. It takes effort guys. It takes love. It takes sacrifice. It takes humility. Because we’re not always good at it.
I have to be understanding of her emotions. I have to be understanding of how she wants things done. I have to be understanding of the time she wants and needs with me. It is so easy for husbands to get caught up in work, hobbies, friends, recreation, etc that they neglect their wives and then don’t understand what the big deal is. Husbands can be selfish. Irritable. Dumb. Frustrated. Impatient. God has called us to overcome these things and honor our wives. Our purpose as a husband is to join hands with our wives on our journey to Heaven. Together. And Peter says that if our relationship with our wives are not where He wants them to be, then our relationship with Him will not be either.
Husbands, when you get done reading this, go hug or kiss your wife. Tell her you love her. Tell her you want to help more than you have been. You want to spend more time together. Thank her for all that she is and all that she does. From this moment forward, work hard to be patient, loving, forgiving. Be wise and not foolish. Find out what she thinks. How she feels. What she needs. Be understanding of her. Honor her. Cherish her. Support her. Love her. Do it on purpose. Make it happen. Work at it. Love and honor her as God has loved and exalted you. God’s way works.
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